Sorry!
It seems to be the hardest word, isn’t it?
This fourth (4th) post regarding my wandering in the wonderland of the human nature, tries to reveal the myth behind why this word ‘sorry’ became hard to share with others and hopefully will reach something.
Strange but true when you hear people complain about their partner who does not care about them; whether they are married couples or close friends, whereas when their partner meet with any stranger, you find it easy to apologise if something went wrong!
In any community, people interact with each other according to a scenario where everybody is trying to maximize his/her share of happiness and minimize his/her share of sadness. In such scenario I think we have two prototypes of people:
- Wealthy People who are capable of accepting the existence of the others in their life;
- Poor People who can hardly accept the existence of the others in their life.
The first prototype, ‘wealthy people’ are the ones with open-minded mentalities, which make them aware about the fact of not living alone. Hereby, they understand that as they do welcome happiness/reject sadness; the others want the same thing too. In this situation, they try to achieve a state of balance between their own needs and other needs in a clever way, which simply means do following ethical guide.
On the other hand, ‘poor people’ are the one with narrow-minded mentalities, who are not aware about the fact of not living alone. Hereby, they hardly understand that their way of gaining happiness might hurt others in case it defects their rights. In this situation, they do not care about the others and treat them in a stupid way, which simply means no following ethical guide.
In the light of this, the words 'wealthy' and 'poor' can be understood in terms personality not in terms of cash money. Hence, you may have a sum of money that make you ‘wealthy’ in the eyes of people but if you step over the others for your happiness, your are really ‘poor’ person, and vice versa of course.
It’s very strange how pride and prejudice shade human nature, however this feeling fades out under the lights of what I’ve mentioned which I always emphasize upon: love is the core of this process because when people love each other they will care and vice versa! This reminds me with one of Prophet Muhammad’s quotes when he (pbuh) said:
Love for your brother what you love for yourself.
In a nutshell, it's up to everybody to select either being wealthy or poor in the light of what I mentioned! So which prototype of them are you?
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April 28th, 2009 @ 15:54
I didn’t get where you were going with the wealthy and poor analogies until I read the entire thing.I would have to agree with you and have to say that is a very nice way of explaining things.Regards!
April 28th, 2009 @ 17:33
I found your article to be interesting but I think the labels for your two types of people should be different. “Wealthy” and “poor” just associates too much with actual themes of wealth and money. So its hard not to glance at that and read it as if all poor people don’t except the existence of other people in their life.. At least that’s my opinion.
Cindy
April 29th, 2009 @ 11:10
This is an excellent post and I enjoyed it. Unfortunately, today many people only watch himself and them do not interest the happiness of others. I would like to change the situation and that we begin to function as human beings.
May 15th, 2009 @ 19:54
“Love for your brother what you love for yourself.” I like this quote. It’s the epitome of selflessness. I think ‘wealthy’ people are selfless–that’s why they could accept other people into their lives. I’d like to think that I’m a ‘wealthy’ person but only fifty-fifty. There are some people that I really couldn’t ’swallow’ so I just try to ignore them as much as I could. Thank you for such insightful blogs.
May 26th, 2009 @ 14:36
Interesting. I like the post.
Where is the line, though, for being accepting that others have the ability to MAKE choices versus your acceptance that those choices are correct?
May 26th, 2009 @ 14:39
Sorry for not putting the correct link in last post. Too little sleep, too much caffeine, and a May 31st editing deadline. Bouncing around blogs is maybe not the best break to take.
Hope you are well,
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May 28th, 2009 @ 18:31
Ah, here is another great post of yours Hicham, traveling inside the human nature is not easy my friend, the problem is we see from different angles!
some people would apologize because they know it’s a shortcut!
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June 7th, 2009 @ 20:17
Hesham: I agree with you regarding the different angles. I liked your end note btw.
May 29th, 2009 @ 21:09
Of all the people who commented on this post, I’m afraid I’m the only one to disagree(so far). Values like loving for your brother what you would love for yourself and all the selfless acts are mere covers of deeper and lower held instincts…unconsciously of course. To treat ethics as the relation between one and society, I believe to be ignoring the whole point of ethics. But individualism and spirituality are what ethics should aim at. If you would like to know more about what I’m talking about, you’re welcome to read the story im posting through my blogg.
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June 7th, 2009 @ 20:30
Amrhima: I’m interested in your point of view, and sure have no problem that you beg to differ with me.
What I presented here is just an inquistive query to the human nature since the personnel is the core of society as I believe, so you’ll not find me always implementing the normal diffenitions/concepts of things as we used to read, learn and understand.
Of course, I’ll make sure to drop by your blog; it sounds interesting since it deals with philosophy.
June 14th, 2009 @ 02:16
Thank you for a very insightful and interesting post. It’s really nice to find articles about philosophical issues which affect everyone. I have always thought of this dichotomy in terms of ‘generous spirited people’ and ‘mean spritited people’ but I think we’re on the same page.
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June 14th, 2009 @ 09:04
Liam: You’re welcome and I think that too. I enjoyed reading your blog also.
June 17th, 2009 @ 22:33
I think perhaps the context of how ’sorry’ is used in todays society is somewhat misplaced, or misunderstood. I don’t think the reality(truth-past the social order of things)of an apology lies in making others happy, nor reducing their sadness nor I think the heart of forgiveness lies in who the person is, in accordance with their status in society, as people differ and are not always who you think, just by how much or how short off income they live by. Personality is not always the ruler of this, simply being human is. I feel an apology lies in the actual heart of the experience, and what the person has learnt about themselfs through it, rather than be used to please others just for the sake of saying it. The apology is more of a thank you to the other person, for allowing us, in ourselfs to see the truth.
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June 17th, 2009 @ 23:47
I understand your point of view and it’s interesting indeed.
What you said is something can not be reached by the majority of people because it lies at the deep ocean of human interaction. However in todays society -whatever- people are kept themsevles grounded into the very detail of mundane life and selfish attitude to the point that they almost forgot about the very simple meaning of being ’sorry’ that floats over the surface of human interaction.
July 11th, 2009 @ 07:00
I liked what I read up, really fantastic (Y)
Best Regards
July 11th, 2009 @ 20:15
Thanks for stopping by, Ahmad. It’s the 3rd part my wandering.