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Sorry in the Human Nature!

I have not forgotten my journey within the nature of people as it is still going on in different stages. If you recall, the first phase was wandering in the wonderland of human nature, the second phase was booking places under the sun of human nature, the third phase was trying to understand the language of human nature that is implemented during various human interaction, and here in this blog entry we reached the 4^th phase where I wonder about why sorry seems to be the hardest word among people or simply the apology attitude in a wide perspective.

Sorry in the Human Nature

Strange but true: when you hear people complain about their partner who does not care about them whether they are married couples or close friends, whereas when their partner meet with any stranger, you find it easy for them to apologize if something went wrong!

Hence in close relationships, sorry seems to be the hardest word, but why? Well, if we look at any community, people interact with each other according to a scenario where everybody tries maximizing his (and her) share of happiness in parallel with minimizing his (and her) share of sadness, so in this scenario I think we have two prototypes of people:

1. Wealthy People: those who are capable of accepting the existence of the others in their life;
2. Poor People: those who are not capable or can hardly accept the existence of the others in their life.

As for the first prototype: “wealthy people” are the ones with open-minded mentalities, which make them aware about the fact of not living alone. Hereby, they understand that as they do welcome happiness and reject sadness, the others around want the same thing too. Hence, in this prototype, they try to achieve a state of balance between their own needs and other needs in a clever way, which simply means do following an ethical guide.

As for the second prototype: “poor people” are the one with narrow-minded mentalities, who forgot about the fact of not living alone. Hereby, they hardly understand that their way of gaining happiness might hurt others in case it defects their rights Furthermore, they try to distribute their share of sadness among the others. Hence, in this prototype, they do not care about the others and treat them in a stupid way which simply means following no ethical guide.

In the light of this, the words wealthy people and poor people can be understood in terms personality not in terms of financial income or inheritance. Hence, you may have a sum of money that make you wealthy in the eyes of society but when you step over the others for your happiness your are poor person – and vice versa indeed.

It is quiet strange how pride and prejudice shade human nature, however this feeling fades out under the lights of what I always emphasize upon: love is the core of this process because when people love each other they will care and vice versa! This is my view for sorry in the human nature from another perspective.

In a nutshell, it is up to everybody to select either being wealthy or poor in the light of what I mentioned in this blog entry, so which prototype of them you belong to? This is one of many questions we are called to ask ourselves individually! Furthermore, this reminds me with a hadith for Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) that states the following:

Love for your brother what you love for yourself. — Muhammad (pbuh)

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