Great Expectations!
I am always wondering about us, the human beings and how we make life strange on planet Earth; I figured it out since many years ago and think this is directly proportional to how people interact with each other through different situations. Hereby in this 3rd blog entry regarding this case, I am sharing my disappointment after 15 days of “murdering Marwa el-Sherbiny” in Germany.
I neither generalize nor exaggerate because this is unhealthy as I discussed in “De-Stereotyping the Image” post; however except few voices; the major silence of feminists and human rights activists is a notable issue, either globally or in Arab and Muslim world particularly.

Marwa el-Sherbini (left) Elwi Okaz (right) & Mustafa
I can – or may – understand if global activists ignore this but what about our dear locals? On the other hand, I also wonder about how the few voices either in blogs, reports and threads talked about everything but Marwa the person, so here I am – the man – shedding some lights on her in this blog entry.
Marwa: Who is Who
Marwa, the daughter of the chemist Ali el-Sherbini and Laila Shams, was born in Alexandria, Egypt on October 7, 1977. She finished high school in 1995 from Nasr Girls College (E.G.C.) in Alexandria where she was the head girl, a position that is very unique in the school similar to the head of a students union in any faculty.
After by, she joined Faculty of Pharmacy, University of Alexandria and in parallel, she was a member of the Egyptian National Handball Team during the period of 1992-1995.
Followed by her graduation as a pharmacist, she got married to Elwi Okaz, an assistant lecturer in the Institute of Genetic Engineering following Minufiya University in Egypt, and they got a baby named Mustafa. They moved to Germany on 2005 since Elwi was a doctoral candidate in Dresden’s Max Planck Institute for Molecular Cell Biology and Genetics as he is researches in the field of genetics and their she got pregnant with her second unborn baby.
Bonjour, it is time to Wake-up
Here my friends, we are talking about a respectable, high-educated and ambitious family which has been destroyed forever by a “lone wolf” who intentionally killed Marwa and her unborn baby in front of her 3 years old Mustafa and her husband Elwi.
Marwa was younger than me with few months so I know how this is hard on me, even if I do not know them. In fact, my heart is broken for both of them since they witnessed her murder and I think any human being who still has some heart to feel is calling for her justice.
Consequently, I am again playing the what if game that irritates some people; I wonder what if she was an “honor killing victim” or “sexual harassment victim” or “oppressed veiled victim” as media usually express? Probably you would have been targeted by talk-shows, t-shirts and banners for advocating justice for the case of the poor thing! Consider this as my answer for the title of Zeinobia’s two weeks old article about Marwa.
Of course I am not supporting these crimes since they are neither human nor from Islam or any religion but honestly I am wondering about that silence which leads a man to write such a post, how come? My criticism is for opinions not persons so this has nothing to do with hate or love because this is irrelevant and hence nothing to end with except.
Updates
- Muslima Media Watch’s article + comments about Marwa are worthy to check.
- Edited to correct wrong information about Marwa according to what Ola – her friend and classmate – mentioned in her comments (see below)
Related Quotes and Sayings
Sympathy is what we need my friend, but where is it?!— Hicham


July 17th, 2009 @ 00:48
Yes….feminism is something lacking in our region and sadly had she been victim of an honour killing or sexual harassment, there would have been little or no comment….we just focus on our victimisation as Arabs and blame the evil West for attacking us. We do need sympathy but we should also sympathise with those victims of equally horrenodus crimes going on daily all around us.
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July 18th, 2009 @ 03:20
All victims are the same for me, Amira because they are humans whether they are Arabs or non, Muslims or non. Our region has a problem of generalising same as happen in the West when they generalise Muslims, women oppression, ect so it’s better to stop those typical stereotype images. I’ve elaborated this over the 2nd post of this case entitled “De-Stereotyping the Image!” Thanks for stopping by here!
July 17th, 2009 @ 11:40
I don’t know Hicham, but I’m thinking we deserve the world indifference, I mean, what were we thinking, a Muslim with a veil having the right to be defended by feminists around the world, most of whom are already against Islam and Hijab, preaching secularism and the like.
Marwa’s case needs ‘Muslim’ women, and not in the ‘movements’ sense of the word, no, I mean if this case would change anything, it should change people, and how they think and what they actually believe .. in terms of enemies and human rights in other countries generally.
For a starter, we should all know that democracy is a hoax, and what they call humanism is actually a biased view, and their freedom is skewed, and that they always have an agenda (I mean the news breaks in Germany that very day wasn’t that spontaneous ignoring the event, was they?!), and we should be very careful, that even if some of those chose to sympathize with us, I don’t want to sound cynical, but I’m thinking ulterior motives (publicity is one!).
The important question is not “where are they?”, “what happened?”, or “who should we accuse?” .. it’s “WHY is this all happening?!”, and “How should that reflect on us Muslims?”.
And .. we really should not wait for anything. We .. should just change how we think about the west and it’s malfunctioned ideologies, period.
July 18th, 2009 @ 03:40
I always enjoy your comments, ibhog
Of course I excpect nothing. That’s why I said “I can understand the silence of global feminists/activists” but you know what? Even a USA radical feminist mentioned this case where as our dear ‘local activists’ didn’t except very few. Ironically, isn’t it?
As for Muslim Women, you placed good points. Anwyway I mentioned at the end of the post “Muslima Media Watch” who are a group of Muslim Feminists who you can label them under ‘Islamic Feminism’. If you want to know more about this topic, kindly check Wikipedia’s Article.
Finally, I wait for nothing from anybody except understanding and those stupid stereotyped images should be decoded either from West aganist Islam/Muslims or Muslims aganist West. This is what I already mentioned in part 2 + part 1 respectively.
July 17th, 2009 @ 16:01
Thank you for this post.
Marwa was my class mate, I know that this is not important but as you are writing about her for people to know, I have few corrections if you allow me:
- Our school name is El-Nasr girls college (E.G.C), that’s the common name that’s known in Alexandria.
- Marwa was the head girl, a position that’s very unique in our E.G.C, it is very similar to the head of a students’ union in any faculty.
- Marwa was a pharmacist, she didn’t earn a degree in pharmacology. The later is a sub specialty.
- Elwi is an assistant lecturer in the institute of genetic engineering, following Monofeia University. N.B: he is graduated from the faculty of pharmacy, Alexandria University, just like Marwa. They were in the same class.
– Finally, Marwa was one of the very best persons I had ever met in my life. She was one young girl who was able to perform many tasks at the same time, all with the same efficiency.
GOD bless your soul my friend.
Thanks & sorry for being that long
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July 18th, 2009 @ 03:25
Why not important? On the contrary this post is just for Marwa among this strange silence so I am glad that you corrected the original info I placed. I’ve amended the post. Thanks so much, Ola for sharing this with us and for stopping by here!
July 17th, 2009 @ 17:00
Thank you very much.
It is strange that myself & Marwa were never close friends!! We were just class mates, but she affected my life a lot. At that time, I so wanted to like her, it was some sort of respect rather than a friendship.
Allah yer7amha
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July 18th, 2009 @ 03:26
May Allah (God) grant her with Mercy, and May we see justice for her.
July 17th, 2009 @ 19:44
There is a lot of Marwa!
Different names, ages, nationality… but the same story..
July 18th, 2009 @ 03:22
Yes Ahmad sadly! Strange people as I said at the beginning of the post! Thanks for stopping by!
July 17th, 2009 @ 22:17
i’m from the Zebida’s list of comluv blogs and i’m happy i did visit. you have a nice site. Good Job!
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July 18th, 2009 @ 03:22
Yes Mikes I saw you there. Thanks for stopping by!
July 20th, 2009 @ 19:27
I, for one, prefer writing love poems that are read mostly by non-Muslims.
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July 28th, 2009 @ 01:08
I don’t know i should write this here or not but just under the name of religion and their rules the people just behave like animals and even forget that the one who keep the world running is not men but it is a women. The one who is having a ability to bring to new life is only not treated well.. why???? and the time till eachone will not change their way of thinking, the situation is not going to change. Marwa is not the last girl who has suffered this but i pray from the bottom of my heart that such thing shoud not happen anymore by the grace of god.. May Allah bless your beautful soul sweet Friend.
July 29th, 2009 @ 16:08
Your input is always welcomed. I just didn’t understand your point that ‘the one who keep the world running is not men but it is a women‘. Anyway people will change the way they think only if they accept the exsistence of other people like them. On the other hand, generally speaking it’s not the fault of religion but the fault people who manipulate the rules of religion for their purpose, or their ideas.
August 5th, 2009 @ 23:26
I would add apathy, worst drug than lack of sympathy. In these cases, it is deadly to silence ones emotions, let alone one’s thoughts about such a horrid crime. Getting too comfortable with our silence will eventually lead to what Audre Lorde calls ” the final death”. To not know why we do not react, especially in the face of such horrid acts, time after time, leads to our complete silence.
How horrid.

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August 10th, 2009 @ 22:05
I agree with your input, Quest. It’s strange, weird, and apathetic too.